1. Just leave it the way it is, because it's not worth a charge TM. What would be the benefit of a Slowbro with Psychic as a charge move, it's a weak attacker so having 2 moves with type synergy isn't important.
Even if it was the other way around and it had Confusion + Psychic it still wouldn't be worth trying for Ice Beam because defending is almost meaningless nowadays.
2. In a neutral setting, Confusion is the best. In a situation where Bullet Seed is super effective, it and Confusion are on par with each other, and both are ahead of Extrasensory. Where Bullet Seed is double super effective, obviously it is the best quick move by far.
All of Exeggutor's quick moves get STAB so what differentiates Bullet Seed from the rest is it's typing.
Currently Zen Headbutt is the least useful move, it's basically a worse Extrasensory, but it could be possible that it gets changed in the future. After all, Confusion used to be the least desired move and now it's the most desired. Personally I'd keep it until moves do get changed, and if they don't, or Zen Headbutt is still worse, then I would consider TMing it.